Another little progress step was made today. I forgave a past boss for laying me off because "I wasn't happy there" (which was true - I had a super bitch supervisor who was making my life hell).
The company let me go after 8 years. They used to literally cry about how much good I'd done for them, getting them on the right track financially, etc. Seriously - in a meeting one of the company owners cried because he was so grateful for Charles & I coming on board to fix things up. When they were busy running the company into the ground they fired Charles and accused him of embezzlement - which they were unable to prove because he didn't do it - and they hired the bitch from hell to be my new, shiny boss.
She hated me and my accounting co-hort Annette who also worked in the Mpls office with me. She locked us out of most of the things we used to do - basically treated us like criminals. In reality the only criminal issue going on was the TX owner treating the company like his personal slush fund and then wondering why we were struggling financially and looking for people to blame it on.
This is what happens sometimes when people suddenly start making money who never did before. It goes to their heads and they act like ninnys.
SO this new boss and I didn't get along. She didn't really get along with anyone she felt was beneath her. She was the queen of sucking up to anyone who she thought could benefit her in some way. But I digress because I haven't forgiven her yet. I should but I haven't. She is a piece of shit in my book.
Back to the point - the 2 people who were running the Mpls office let Annette go first and I followed shortly after. Bitch boss didn't want us around. But it hurt my feelings to have friends of mine for 8 years tell me they didn't want me back.
I unfriended them on Facebook and didn't have any contact with them.
I was connected on LinkedIn and frankly don't know how to disconnect from them (I don't go on it often so it didn't matter much). Today I saw that one of them, Phil, took a new position. I remembered when he and I got along. I liked him! The only thing polluting that was my being laid off so they could shift my job to Texas.
Time to let it go. Probably time to let go of my hatred and loathing for Toni (bitch boss) but nah. Maybe on my deathbed I'll let that one go if she's worth a thought by then. She probably won't be. She mostly isn't a thought now except for the whole thing with Phil's new job.
Anyway, I liked his post. Couldn't bring myself to congratulate him with a comment since that could initiate a conversation but at least I let him know I'm happy for him. Maybe I haven't totally let go of the hurt feelings but it was a step in the right direction.
It's good to make an effort to forgive. In most cases, the people we aren't forgiving don't even know it and aren't even thinking of it. Like do I think Toni gives 2 shits that I think she's a shitty person? Nope. She may feel hatred and loathing for me if she ever thinks of me. She certainly went to great lengths to get me to quit so my guess is there is zero fondness in that one towards me. We're mutually in loathing! That helps. Mutual loathing is ok. You don't have to get along with everyone. You don't have to pretend to like shitty people.
But Phil is a person I once cared about and because of my injured feelings that I stopped being friends with. Will we be friends again? Probably not. I don't feel an urge to rekindle the friendship but at least I can be nice and celebrate when good things happen to him. I am glad for him. I hope he enjoys his new position!
